The Sacred Pause: Meeting Fear Without Running
What if fear isn’t something to overcome, but something to listen to?
What if the very thing you've been running from is the gateway to everything you long for?
For over three decades, fear lived in me like a silent dictator.
I didn’t even realize it.
It was quietly directing my decisions, my relationships, my ambitions—
even my healing path.
I had a degree in psychology.
I sat in countless ceremonies.
I devoted years to yoga and meditation.
Still, I was numb to the force shaping my every move: fear.
It wore many masks.
The mask of strength—lashing out when things felt too tender.
The mask of perfection—pleasing and performing to keep everyone close.
Fear of being disliked.
Fear of not being enough.
Fear of being left out.
Fear of being misunderstood.
Fear of not being loved.
Fear of losing people I love.
Fear of not finding my purpose.
Fear of not living my Truth.
Fear, fear, fear.
Then one day, something in me just broke.
Or maybe… finally, something opened.
I was tired.
Really tired.
Tired of trying to figure it out.
Tired of fixing, processing, analyzing.
Tired of chasing teachings to dissolve it.
I remember one moment—potent and raw—
when fear surged so loudly in my system,
there was no room for anything else.
And instead of doing something about it,
I simply stopped.
What happened next is what I now call
the Sacred Pause.
In this stillness, something softened.
I dropped the mental gymnastics.
I didn’t seek a root cause.
I didn’t spiritualize it.
I didn’t even question the questioner.
I simply stayed.
I felt.
I noticed how fiercely my mind tried to pull me away—
to distract me from the body,
from sensation,
from presence.
But there was a deeper pull inward.
A quiet, sacred invitation.
And in that pause, something happened that changed everything:
Space opened.
Time dissolved.
The body became vast.
And fear…
simply moved through.
Yes—at first tightening, twisting, trembling—
but soon after, everything dissolved.
Everything dissolved into that immense, empty, and silent space.
A space without edges and without end.
A space I only call “space” because I need to give it a name…
but it’s not even that.
Words fall short.
And even so, if I try to name it, what comes is “Essence.”
I’d say that this essence has now become like an inner lighthouse,
one that guides every decision I make today.
Now I see that fear, in that moment, transformed into a visitor.
Not an enemy.
Not something to conquer.
Just energy.
Just life.
And don’t get me wrong,
fear still visits.
But now, it’s welcomed.
Not because I like it,
but because I know it carries something real.
Something alive.
Just a quiet invitation
to stay close—
to meet what’s here
without running.
This is what I wish for you, too.
To know you don’t have to fix yourself.
To feel what happens when you stop,
and simply pause.
To let your beautiful, sensitive, human body
feel—fully, unapologetically.
Because sometimes,
it’s not in the effort—
but in the surrender—
where healing reveals itself.
How would it be for you to take a Sacred Pause and meet what’s here, just as it is?
You don’t have to be fearless. You just have to be here.
With heart,
Victoria
